If we understand how to recognize when we are being loved, we can also learn to recognize our love for another. When we are loved, we tend to feel it intuitively in our guts. But how does it work?
Passionate vs companionate love
Love is involuntary. Brain science tells us it's a drive like thirst. It's a craving for a specific person. It's normal, natural to "lose control" in the early stage of romance. It's a natural addiction and treating it like an addiction can help you.
“Am I Loved?” Vs. “Do I Love?”
Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states , from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection and to the simplest pleasure. Most commonly, love refers to a feeling of strong attraction and emotional attachment. Love is considered to be a positive and negative: with its virtue representing human kindness , compassion , and affection, as "the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another"; and its vice representing human moral flaw , akin to vanity , selfishness , amour-propre , and egotism , as it potentially leads people into a type of mania, obsessiveness or codependency. Ancient Greek philosophers identified five forms of love : essentially, familial love in Greek , Storge , friendly love or platonic love Philia , romantic love Eros , guest love Xenia and divine love Agape.
And we spend a whole lifetime learning more it. Do you want to learn more? Also, check out the video below by Ideapod founder Justin Brown on 5 powerful exercises to start loving yourself. A major study over 20 years ago studied societies and found evidence of romantic love in of them. The world-renowned anthropologist and expert on romantic love Helen Fisher has concluded that love is much more than an emotion. It operates at a level so deeply rooted in our biology that we struggle to control it:. In fact, I had always thought it was a series of emotions, from very high to very low. It comes from the motor of the mind, the wanting part of the mind, the craving part of the mind.